Trouble shooting for the church grumbles
12th May 2013, Jared Kealley
Being part of a church is so important for our Christian growth. But what do we do if we find ourselves grumbling about church, for whatever reason? Or what about if we find a friend coming to us for advice because they have found that they are facing the church grumbles? Here is a checklist for troubleshooting the grumbles-
1. What can I do?
If you we find ourselves grumbling about church, firstly we need to ask ourselves if there is anything we can do about it. It can be easy to nit-pick- "the church doesn't do this, the church doesn't have that...", but is the reason because we are not doing our part? We can say "no one calls me" but do we call anyone? Church is more than an organization that we belong to, but is a holy, living community, and each member has a part to play (1 Cor 12: 12). If we don't do our part, others miss out.
2. Do I have realistic and biblical expectations?
A big reason why people leave or are fed up in churches is because the church doesn't meet their expectations. And it is ok to have some degree of expectations, but are they biblical? We need to have our expectations in the Word, and not be conformed to this world (Romans 12: 2). We also need to make sure our expectations are realistic- not expecting people to read our minds (especially pastors) but communicating and seeking support if needed. The church is not a country club where have membership entitlements, but a living Holy community- all have a part to play to work together. We need to move from an entitlement mindset to a servant mindset.
3. Is my heart right?
A lot of the time the entitlement mindset, and feeling "owed" can have nothing to do with others, but what is happening in our heart. Out of our heart comes all sorts of bad stuff, and it does influence our life (Proverbs 4: 23). Our past hurt, pride, fear and wounds can have a big impact on our relationship with others if not dealt with, including church. It is often easier to blame the church or other people than deal with our own problems. If we are finding ourselves having the church grumbles, it is a good idea to have a heart check up with the Great Physician! He is in the business of healing broken hearts and making them clean. And He also places "hospitals" all around us to provide support and care- the church!
4. Am I planted?
We can judge, criticize, make excuses, and pick or choose when it comes to church, but at the end of the day we need to ask ourselves if we are where God wants us, and if so, whether we are planted there. God calls us and appoints us to churches- a place we can be planted, grow and minister (Ps 92: 13). We need to make sure we are planted where He calls us. Being planted involves being committed, part of the community and being accountable, as well as serving, and receiving love and support. When we are planted, we flourish. When the storms of life come, because our roots are deep, we remain stable, supported and grow strong. When we aren't planted, it is very easy to become critical, and see the flaws in others, but when we are planted, we grow, and God irons all the flaws and creases out of ourselves, which gets them out of the church!
So let us not make any excuses for not fellowshipping with each other, but plant our roots deeply in our local church!
Blessings
Pastor Jared